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  1. Nick
    Nick August 20, 2012 at 6:15 am

    Another way is to buy yourself a copy of Wild by Sheryl Strayed and let your partner of twenty years read it first. Next years (Secret) solo hike is now for two.

    1. Ray
      Ray August 20, 2012 at 6:35 am

      Very true! My wife and my mother read “Wild” this summer and they both enjoyed it. It’s on my list, but I haven’t started it yet.

  2. Rod Tayler
    Rod Tayler March 20, 2013 at 3:49 pm

    Ray. I really enjoyed the post you suggested Dave read. My better half and I are doing a thru-hike of the JMT this summer, and I believe your tips are spot on. Heidi has already read Wild and was inspired by it. All the best. Rod

    1. Ray
      Ray March 21, 2013 at 6:32 am

      Thanks, Rod! Good hiking!

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    Kids on the John Muir Trail May 21, 2013 at 3:26 am

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  4. Jill
    Jill April 22, 2014 at 4:36 am

    Haha! Or find yourself a girl like me that loves bugs, dirt and walking through the woods. 🙂

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  6. Inga
    Inga August 26, 2014 at 7:50 am

    Hi Ray, I love your book and blog and you have a lot of important points in this posting. I know you’re posting based on your personal experience but I’d like to point out that it’s not always the sterotypical female half of the equation who protests about sleeping in the woods. There are plenty of women on the ‘Ladies of the JMT’ FB group who lament about their boyfriend’s lack of desire to join them backpacking and I was impressed to see so many female solo hikers or groups of females doing the JMT. I was lucky to convince my husband to get back out there–he did plenty of backpacking in his younger years and, once he started making good money, decided that a nice hotel was better than a tent. Once I got him out he was re-inspired and we’ve been backpacking together since then. Luckily neither of us seems to bonk on the same day but when one of us does the other always picks up the slack with encouraging words, suggesting more or longer rest breaks and doing little things like blowing up the other person’s air mattress or getting the water. The issues you describe can be gender-neutral!

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